25 Powerful Lessons from 1 Samuel 18: Jonathan’s Costly Loyalty, Saul’s Jealousy, and the Presence of God

Everything David does in this chapter is right, and everything around him gets worse.

That is the trouble sitting under the lessons from 1 Samuel 18. Most of us carry an arrangement nobody taught us out loud: behave well, and the people around you will come round eventually. This chapter takes that arrangement apart and does not put it back together.

It also refuses to leave you there. Three separate times the chapter stops to say the one thing that explains David, and it is never his courage.

Brief Summary of 1 Samuel 18

The chapter opens straight off David’s victory over Goliath. Saul keeps David at court and will not let him go home. Jonathan, the king’s own son and heir, binds himself to David by covenant and hands over his robe and his weapons. When the women of Israel sing that Saul killed thousands and David ten thousands, Saul turns.

He throws a javelin at David, moves him out of the palace, breaks a promise of marriage to one daughter, then offers another as a trap with a bride price meant to get him killed. The people are Saul, David, Jonathan and Michal. Underneath it is a king fighting a decision God had already made.

Lesson 1: You Can Love the Person Who Has What You Wanted (1 Samuel 18:1)

1 Samuel 18:1: “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”

You have probably stood near someone who arrived late and took the thing you were in line for. Jonathan was the king’s son, next for a throne, listening to a shepherd finish answering his father about Goliath. What rose in him was love.

The verse records no struggle before that love and no calculation after it. Samuel had already told Saul the kingdom was going to a neighbour better than him, which makes Jonathan the man who loses most by that verdict.

Paul asks the same thing of us in Romans 12:15, to rejoice with them that do rejoice. That is easy language until the rejoicing is over someone standing where you hoped to stand. Jonathan’s heart is the rarest thing in this chapter, and it is the only heart here God’s people are asked to copy.

Lesson 2: God’s Call Can End a Season You Never Chose to Leave (1 Samuel 18:2)

1 Samuel 18:2: “And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house.”

David woke that morning as a shepherd with brothers and a father and a familiar hillside. By evening another man had decided he belonged to the palace, and the text says he was not allowed to go home again. Nobody asked him.

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Seasons often close like that. A move, an illness, a door somebody else shuts, and the ordinary life you assumed would still be there next year is finished. God is not absent from that. The same God who sent Samuel to a back field in Bethlehem is the one who let Saul take David out of it.

Psalm 37:5 says to commit thy way unto the LORD, trust also in him, and he shall bring it to pass. If a season of yours ended without your permission, the ending is not proof that God stopped steering. It may be the first mile of the road He actually promised.

Lesson 3: Friendship That Lasts Makes Promises, Not Just Feelings (1 Samuel 18:3)

1 Samuel 18:3: “Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.”

Warm feeling is where most friendships begin and where a great many of them stop. Jonathan would not leave his there. He turned it into a covenant, which in Israel meant a binding agreement with obligations attached, the kind of thing a man could be held to when the feeling went missing.

It held. Years later Jonathan told David to his face that David would be king and he would be next to him. After Jonathan died, David went looking for anyone left of his house so he could show kindness for Jonathan’s sake. Proverbs 18:24 speaks of a friend that sticketh closer than a brother, and this is what that looks like once it has been put into words.

Ask yourself which of your friendships have ever been stated out loud. Tell one person this week what they can actually count on from you, then be the sort of person who is still there when it costs something.

Lesson 4: Jonathan Handed Over His Position, Not Just His Coat (1 Samuel 18:4)

1 Samuel 18:4: “And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments.”

Think about the thing that tells people who you are when you walk into a room. A prince’s robe did that work in Israel. It was the uniform of the office, and commentators from Matthew Henry onward have read this gesture as Jonathan making David his second self in front of witnesses.

So the man with the strongest legal claim to Israel’s throne took off the sign of that claim and dressed the rival in it. He did not lose the position. He handed it over.

Paul writes in Philippians 2:3 that in lowliness of mind we should each esteem other better than themselves. Most of us can manage that in words while holding our place with both hands. Jonathan did it where it could be seen and could not be taken back.

There is something in most of us that wants the title kept, the credit noted, the seat reserved. Wherever that grip is tightest is usually the place God is asking for the robe.

Lesson 5: He Gave Away the Weapon He Could Not Replace (1 Samuel 18:4)

1 Samuel 18:4: “even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.”

Four chapters earlier the same book records something most readers of this scene never connect to it. In the day of battle there was neither sword nor spear found in the hand of any of the people that were with Saul and Jonathan, 1 Samuel 13:22 says, but with Saul and with Jonathan his son was there found.

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Two real weapons in the entire national army, and Jonathan owned one of them. The Philistine war was not over. He gave it away.

Generosity that costs nothing is a habit. Generosity that removes your own cover is worship. Jonathan armed the man who would take his crown, in a season when he might well need that sword himself, because he had settled whose side God was on and acted like it.

What have you been holding back because you might need it later? Give the thing you would actually miss.

Lesson 6: Handle Success the Way David Did, Every Single Time (1 Samuel 18:5)

1 Samuel 18:5: “And David went out whithersoever Saul sent him, and behaved himself wisely: and Saul set him over the men of war, and he was accepted in the sight of all the people.”

Real character shows itself in repetition, in the thing a person does so often that nobody notices them doing it any more.

Four times this chapter says it of David. Three are plain narration at verses 5, 14 and 30, and the fourth comes at verse 15 through what Saul himself saw. The last of them is comparative: more wisely than all the servants of Saul. The Hebrew word behind the phrase carries both ideas at once, acting with good sense and coming out well, so the wisdom and the outcome are one thought rather than two.

Where it appears is what matters. David does this in the palace and in the field, before the people and before the court, over and over, through a stretch of his life when nobody would have blamed him for slipping.

Saul’s own servant had described David this way before he ever came to court, calling him prudent in matters and adding that the LORD is with him (1 Samuel 16:18). Sudden success exposes what a person has been practising in private, and David had been practising this.

Lesson 7: God’s Presence Was the Only Explanation David Ever Had (1 Samuel 18:12, 14, 28)

1 Samuel 18:12, 14, 28: “because the Lord was with him… and the Lord was with him… And Saul saw and knew that the Lord was with David.”

Why does everything keep going right for David in a chapter where everything around him is going wrong? The chapter answers that three separate times, and it never credits his talent, his popularity, his war record or his nerve. Every promotion, every escape and every reversal is put down to one thing.

That should change how you read your own record. Psalm 75:6 says that promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south, and the next verse names God as the one who putteth down one and setteth up another.

Whatever you are managing to hold together right now, the reason for it may be simpler and kinder than you have been assuming. And what Saul spent this chapter trying to out-plan was never in David at all.

Lesson 8: Envy Hears a Ranking Where the Room Hears Praise (1 Samuel 18:6-8)

1 Samuel 18:6-8: “the women came out of all cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet king Saul, with tabrets, with joy, and with instruments of musick… And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him.”

Read the sixth verse before judging the seventh. The women came out of every city in Israel, and the verse says they came to meet king Saul, with joy, after a national deliverance. This was a celebration held in Saul’s honour. He was the guest of honour at his own parade.

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Out of all of it he carried home two numbers and the order they came in. The song was true. Goliath’s fall had opened the door to a rout, and the singers were doing what singers in Israel did after a victory, answering one another in turn as they came out to meet the king.

James 3:16 says that where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. Confusion is exactly the right word for a man who stands inside applause and hears an insult. The fault that day was not in the song. It was in the ear.

Where has praise for somebody else landed in you as a measurement of yourself?

Lesson 9: Envy Jumps From One Sentence to the Worst Conclusion (1 Samuel 18:8)

1 Samuel 18:8: “and what can he have more but the kingdom?”

Most of us have heard a remark and finished the sentence for the person who said it, and the ending we supplied was worse than anything they meant. Saul does that here on a national scale. From one line of a victory song he concludes that David is coming for the throne.

Nothing in the chapter supports him. David has not asked for anything, hinted at anything, or been accused by anyone. Saul’s own words are the only place in 1 Samuel 18 where David is said to want the kingdom, and they are the words of a frightened man reading a stranger’s heart off a song lyric.

Paul says charity envieth not and vaunteth not itself (1 Corinthians 13:4), using the King James word for love, and part of what love refuses to do is invent motives it cannot see. Take the last conclusion you reached about somebody’s intentions and ask what evidence you actually had. Then go and ask them.

Lesson 10: A Grudge You Keep Becomes the Way You See a Person (1 Samuel 18:9)

1 Samuel 18:9: “And Saul eyed David from that day and forward.”

One short verse, and nothing happens in it. No new offence, no fresh provocation, nothing at all between the song and this sentence except what Saul did with the song inside himself. By the end of the verse he has a permanent way of looking at a man.

The wording is worth noticing. Two chapters before, Scripture said the Spirit of the LORD came upon David from that day forward (1 Samuel 16:13). Now the same phrase attaches itself to Saul’s suspicion. Two men, two things that settled in and stayed, and the difference between them is the whole rest of the book.

Watching is not a neutral activity. Once a person has become someone you monitor, every ordinary thing they do arrives already interpreted, and you may find it hard to see them at all any more. If there is somebody you have been watching that way, the verse does not ask you to excuse them. It asks whether you can still see them.

Lesson 11: What You Nurse Tonight Can Be in Your Hand Tomorrow (1 Samuel 18:10-11)

1 Samuel 18:10-11: “And it came to pass on the morrow… and there was a javelin in Saul’s hand. And Saul cast the javelin; for he said, I will smite David even to the wall with it.”

How long does it take to get from a bad thought to a thrown spear? In Saul’s case, one night. The song is in verse seven, the suspicion in verse nine, and the weapon leaves his hand in verse eleven.

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Notice what the verse mentions before it mentions the throw. The javelin was already in Saul’s hand. He was holding it while David played, in a room where the music was supposed to be doing him good, and Scripture puts that detail in front of us first.

Proverbs 27:4 asks who is able to stand before envy, and part of the answer is that envy keeps its tools close and waits for a reason. Left alone, resentment can move faster than you expect. Deal with yours tonight rather than finding out in the morning what your hands do with it.

Lesson 12: Do Your Work the Same Way When the Room Changes (1 Samuel 18:10-11)

1 Samuel 18:10-11: “and David played with his hand, as at other times… And David avoided out of his presence twice.”

Have you ever had to keep working in a room that had turned against you? Three words in this verse do a great deal of work: as at other times. The king was tormented, the danger was real, and David played the way he had always played. He did not perform harder to win Saul back, and he did not go through the motions to get himself out of there.

Then Scripture says he escaped twice. It does not narrate a return, but two escapes are hard to account for unless he was in that room a second time, which suggests he went back to a job that had nearly killed him.

Paul’s promise in Galatians 6:9 is that in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. There are few harder places to hold on to that than a room where your faithfulness is unwanted. David’s harp never became a bargaining chip or a protest. It stayed a harp.

Lesson 13: Saul Was Not Left in Peace When God’s Spirit Departed (1 Samuel 18:10)

1 Samuel 18:10: “And it came to pass on the morrow, that the evil spirit from God came upon Saul, and he prophesied in the midst of the house.”

This is the verse readers stumble over. Scripture does not present God as the source of evil. What it records is judgment God permitted on a king who had already been told the kingdom was taken from him, and the reason sits two chapters back: the Spirit of the LORD departed from Saul, and an evil spirit from the LORD troubled him (1 Samuel 16:14).

The word translated “prophesied” can describe uncontrolled behaviour rather than a message from God, which is how many understand it here, though the text does not settle the question for us.

What the chapter does settle is that Saul was not left neutral when God’s Spirit went. Something else had the room. Persistent, knowing rebellion in a man who held a sacred office is treated in Scripture as a serious matter, and this chapter shows what that looked like from the outside.

That warning is not a threat hung over a believer who is struggling. Christ keeps His own, and a heart troubled about its own hardness is not a heart like Saul’s.

Lesson 14: Saul Feared the Very Thing That Should Have Broken Him (1 Samuel 18:12)

1 Samuel 18:12: “And Saul was afraid of David, because the Lord was with him, and was departed from Saul.”

The verse gives the reason for Saul’s fear, and the reason is a piece of theology: God was with David and had departed from him. Ten verses later the chapter says outright that Saul saw and knew it, so this was not something he half suspected.

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Then he did the one thing nobody would expect. A man who knows God has left him could go and find God. Saul went and watched David instead. Proverbs 29:25 says the fear of man bringeth a snare, and the rest of Saul’s life is caught in the snare that opens here.

Fear and repentance can begin at the same doorway. One turns toward God and one turns toward the person you are afraid of, and only one of them ever ends. Which way have you been turning when you sense that something is wrong between you and God?

Lesson 15: God Can Use the Move That Was Meant to Sideline You (1 Samuel 18:13)

1 Samuel 18:13: “Therefore Saul removed him from him, and made him his captain over a thousand; and he went out and came in before the people.”

You may be standing right now inside a decision that was made to reduce you. Somebody moved you, and the move was not for your good.

Saul wanted David out of the palace, so he gave him a command. The verse does not tell us what Saul was thinking and does not need to. It tells us what the removal produced: David in front of the nation, leading a thousand men, learning the work of a general.

Joseph said to his brothers, ye thought evil against me, but God meant it unto good (Genesis 50:20), and the same double meaning runs through this verse. One decision, two authors. Saul is arranging distance and God is arranging training.

That doubling happens more than once here. The removal gives David a command, and the bride price meant to kill him ends with Saul handing him a daughter.

Samuel had already delivered the verdict Saul spent the rest of his life fighting: the LORD hath rent the kingdom of Israel from thee this day, and hath given it to a neighbour of thine, that is better than thou (1 Samuel 15:28). Every run Saul made at that decision moved David nearer the throne. Whatever your own sidelining is teaching you, it is happening inside a decision the people who arranged it cannot reach.

Lesson 16: Doing Right May Not Calm Someone Who Resents You (1 Samuel 18:15)

1 Samuel 18:15: “Wherefore when Saul saw that he behaved himself very wisely, he was afraid of him.”

If you are the one being resented, this verse is for you, and it may be the most honest sentence in the chapter. David’s good conduct did not soften Saul. It frightened him more. The better David behaved, the worse the relationship became.

That runs against something most of us believe without examining it. We assume that if we are patient enough, humble enough and careful enough, the other person will come round eventually. When they do not, we decide the failure must be ours and go looking for what else we should be doing.

Sometimes there is nothing else. Paul writes, if it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men (Romans 12:18), and both of those conditions are in the sentence because he knew it is not always possible and not always within your reach.

Your conduct is your responsibility. Their response to it is not. Keep behaving wisely, and stop reading their reaction as your report card.

Lesson 17: People Follow the Leader Who Goes Out in Front (1 Samuel 18:16)

1 Samuel 18:16: “But all Israel and Judah loved David, because he went out and came in before them.”

Israel and Judah loved David, and verse 16 says why without making us guess: he went out and came in before them. The picture is of a man at the front of his people rather than behind them.

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Set that beside Saul, who twice in this same chapter sends David out to fight while he stays behind and hopes the Philistines finish the job. The nation could feel the difference without anybody explaining it to them.

Jesus described His own care in the same terms in John 10:4, saying that when he putteth forth his own sheep, he goeth before them, and the sheep follow him. Wherever you carry responsibility, whether that is a team, a class, a home or two people who look to you, the love of those you lead tends to follow your feet rather than your instructions.

Lesson 18: Watch for Godly Language Wrapped Around an Ungodly Plan (1 Samuel 18:17)

1 Samuel 18:17: “only be thou valiant for me, and fight the Lord’s battles. For Saul said, Let not mine hand be upon him, but let the hand of the Philistines be upon him.”

Religious words are the easiest words in the world to borrow. Saul stands in front of a young man he wants dead and tells him to be valiant and fight the LORD’s battles, and Scripture sets the sentence he said out loud right beside the sentence he said to himself.

Note also what he wanted arranged. He wanted David dead, and he wanted the Philistines to do it. There is a kind of sin that badly wants the outcome and cannot bear the fingerprints, and Scripture has no category for that separation. God read the plan, not the wording.

Paul warns that Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14), which means the counterfeit is built to look like the real thing rather than the opposite of it. Spiritual language is not by itself evidence of a spiritual heart.

Where have you dressed a decision you already wanted in language you knew would end the conversation? Take the covering off and look at the decision.

Lesson 19: A Right View of Yourself Makes Flattery Useless (1 Samuel 18:18, 23)

1 Samuel 18:18, 23: “Who am I? and what is my life, or my father’s family in Israel, that I should be son in law to the king?… seeing that I am a poor man, and lightly esteemed?”

Flattery works best on someone who already half believes it.

By this point David is the most talked-about man in Israel. Women in every city are singing about him. He commands a thousand men. Offered the king’s daughter, he asks who he is, and five verses later, with servants working on him, he calls himself poor and lightly esteemed.

That second moment is where the value shows. Saul’s men were sent to flatter David into a trap, and they found nothing in him to grip.

Peter tells us to humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt us in due time (1 Peter 5:6), and one mercy of that posture is that it makes a person very hard to manipulate. A settled, modest estimate of yourself works like armour, and it has nothing to do with thinking poorly of what God made.

Lesson 20: A Broken Promise Does Not Release You From Doing Right (1 Samuel 18:19)

1 Samuel 18:19: “But it came to pass at the time when Merab Saul’s daughter should have been given to David, that she was given unto Adriel the Meholathite to wife.”

What do you do when a person with power over you goes back on their word and pays nothing for it? Saul made the offer in front of witnesses, attached conditions to it, watched David meet them, then handed his daughter to another man on the day it should have happened. There was no explanation and no apology.

The text records no protest from David. He does not resign, denounce the king, or take the story to the army that already loved him. He goes on serving, and when the second offer comes he handles it the same measured way he handled the first.

What the chapter shows is how David carried a broken promise, not a rule that anyone must stay anywhere. A person in real danger has other things to weigh, and David himself leaves this court within two chapters.

Peter describes how Christ carried the same treatment, and puts the weight on one clause: he committed himself to him that judgeth righteously (1 Peter 2:23). That is the hinge. Silence is only bearable once you have handed the matter to somebody who will see it settled.

Has someone in authority over you broken their word and paid nothing for it? Give the account to God, and let it be His to settle rather than yours to carry.

Lesson 21: Envy Will Spend the People It Claims to Love (1 Samuel 18:20-21)

1 Samuel 18:20-21: “And Michal Saul’s daughter loved David: and they told Saul, and the thing pleased him… I will give him her, that she may be a snare to him.”

Michal’s love was real, and it is the only tenderness in this half of the chapter. What her father saw in it was an opportunity. The verse tells us plainly that the news pleased him, then tells us why: he thought she could be made into a trap.

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Sin against God rarely stays contained to the person committing it. Saul had already lost his kingdom and his peace, and here he begins spending his family. Proverbs 11:29 says he that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind, and Saul is busy doing exactly that while calling it strategy.

Look at the people nearest you. Has any one of them become useful to you rather than loved by you?

Lesson 22: Kind Words Can Be Sent to Set a Trap (1 Samuel 18:22)

1 Samuel 18:22: “And Saul commanded his servants, saying, Commune with David secretly, and say, Behold, the king hath delight in thee, and all his servants love thee: now therefore be the king’s son in law.”

Warmth that reaches you through a third party, in confidence, just before a request, is worth a second look.

Everything in that message was pleasant and none of it was true. The king had no delight in David; he had a javelin. The words did not even come from him. They came through staff, in private, which is precisely how a message gets delivered when it is built to reach a man with his guard down.

Proverbs 29:5 puts it bluntly: a man that flattereth his neighbour spreadeth a net for his feet. The net is the point of the flattery, not a side effect of it. None of this makes suspicion a virtue; it makes discernment necessary. Weigh what is being asked of you rather than how good it felt to be asked.

Lesson 23: Weigh What a Demand Costs, Not How It Is Dressed (1 Samuel 18:25, 27)

1 Samuel 18:25: “The king desireth not any dowry, but an hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to be avenged of the king’s enemies. But Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the Philistines.”

A bride price was ordinary in Israel. The groom paid the bride’s father, and where a family had no need of goods the price could be paid in an act of valour instead. Saul took a normal custom and built something out of it that was not normal at all.

He asked for proof of a hundred dead Philistines. Body-part trophies were a recognised way of verifying a count, so what looked like a patriotic gesture was a demand that sent David into repeated close combat with the nation’s strongest enemy. Scripture does not leave us to work this out. The narrator states the public reason and the private one in the same verse.

David brought two hundred. Years later he still spoke of it himself, sending word to Ishbosheth to deliver me my wife Michal, which I espoused to me for an hundred foreskins of the Philistines (2 Samuel 3:14). The price meant to bury him became the thing he used to claim what was his.

Lesson 24: Knowing God Is at Work Is Not the Same as Repenting (1 Samuel 18:28-29)

1 Samuel 18:28-29: “And Saul saw and knew that the Lord was with David… And Saul was yet the more afraid of David; and Saul became David’s enemy continually.”

A person can reach the right conclusion about God and walk the other way with it.

Saul had now watched an entire chapter of evidence. Every javelin missed, every posting backfired, every trap turned into a blessing, and the verse says he saw and knew the LORD was with David. He got the answer right.

Then he moved further away. Paul describes the same pattern in Romans 1:21, saying that when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, and it removes ignorance as an excuse. Saul’s problem was never a shortage of information.

Watch the last two words of verse twenty-nine. Enemy continually. What began as a mood at a parade has hardened into a settled condition, and it took less than thirty verses to get there.

Lesson 25: God Builds a Name Your Enemies Cannot Pull Down (1 Samuel 18:30)

1 Samuel 18:30: “Then the princes of the Philistines went forth: and it came to pass, after they went forth, that David behaved himself more wisely than all the servants of Saul; so that his name was much set by.”

What is the last thing this chapter gives David? A name. The Philistine war is still running, Saul is still hostile, the throne is still years away and the king has yet to apologise for anything, and the closing sentence records that David’s name was much set by.

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That is what God had been building the whole time, underneath the spears and the schemes and the wedding traps. Isaiah 54:17 promises that no weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper, and calls this the heritage of the servants of the LORD, which is another way of saying it is not something they arrange for themselves.

A reputation you construct has to be defended. A reputation God grows while you are busy behaving wisely carries no such weakness, because the people trying to pull it down are the very ones whose opposition built it.

Key Themes in 1 Samuel 18

• Costly loyalty: Jonathan gives away his robe, his weapons and his claim, and Scripture treats it as the right response to God’s choice.
• Envy in stages: a song, a suspicion, a spear, a scheme, a settled enmity, all inside thirty verses.
• God’s presence as the real engine: stated three times as the reason for everything that happens to David.
• Faithfulness that fixes nothing: David behaves wisely throughout and the relationship still gets worse.

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Conclusion: What the Lessons from 1 Samuel 18 Ask of You

Everything David does in this chapter is right, and everything around him gets worse. The chapter never resolves that on the terms we wanted. Saul is still his enemy when it closes.

What it gives instead is better. One event, David’s rise, lands in three hearts and exposes all three. Jonathan gives away his robe, the people sing, and Saul reaches for a spear. Same news, same day, three men shown for what they were.

You will hear news like that about somebody this week. Watch what rises in you when you do, because that reaction will tell you more about yourself than the news tells you about them. And if you are the one being watched by a Saul, keep behaving wisely. The Lord was with David, and the chapter says so three times because it is the only explanation that ever mattered.